At two recent events I was the victim of the Sidebar Conversation. This is a conversation an attendee starts with his or her “neighbor” – during the presentation. It may be about the topic, but it’s still a conversation while the speaker is speaking. And it’s rude.
What are you tolerating? A toleration is something that’s bugging you but doesn’t have dramatic consequences if you don’t handle it.
Recently my computer mouse stopped scrolling up. I tried cleaning the dust out of the mouse but it didn’t help so I just dealt with it for a couple of weeks.
“Welp. That’s just the way I am.”
That’s the reasoning you may get when someone hurts, offends, falls short of expectations, etc. You’re left angry, disappointed, frustrated, hurt or having to clean up a mess.
Here’s why it’s a loser excuse.
Nearly every time I debrief an assessment with a client and share information about a particular trait that’s been uncovered, I hear something on the order of “Yeah, but everybody feels that way about (fill in the blank.)”
Think about an initiative to grow your business you intend to tackle or perhaps a self-development program you’ve been meaning to start. Could be coming up with a robust marketing plan, writing that book, losing 10 pounds, getting a better job, becoming more active in a social cause, etc.
Got one? Good.
Now, you need to be able to answer this one-word question.
I brought up politics over cocktails and here’s what happened.
It was an experiment.
Pretty certain that the guy I was meeting with was on the other side of the political spectrum, I asked him what he thought about the election. Over the next half hour we had a spirited discussion about the players, major political issues and the state of the country. It got tens
Have you ever been stuck? Just not sure where to go from here? Maybe you have so much to do that you’re stuck in a paralyzed way. Or perhaps you’re stuck choosing between two options. Or even stuck because you don’t have enough information or skill in a particular area.
In the 17 years I’ve had my own business I’ve had a number of accountability partners. Some have been successful partnerships and others not. Right now, I’m in a great one. From the trenches, these tips will improve your chance of success.
Schedules are packed and deadlines are tight. Combined, you feel like you need to speed up to pack everything in. But there are smart reasons to do just the opposite. Take a breath and slow down. Here, eight reasons why you should.
Last year I lost my mom. It is undoubtedly the most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever gone through. She was a wonderful person and I miss her every single day. If you’ve lost someone very close to you, you get it. She taught me the most important lessons in life, and she taught me an enormously important lesson in her death.
Need to get consistently good results from your workday? In fact, not only good results but feel more focused, productive and happy? Here’s a simple plan.
Have you ever asked for someone’s opinion and then realized you didn’t want it?
That happened to me recently. After working hard on a graphic that explains my services, I came up with what I thought was pretty good and then had a graphic designer polish it up. After that was done I shared it with a few people to see what they thought.
Most busy people have long task lists. But chances are slim that you actually have the time to do everything. Scratch these types of tasks off of your list. Not because you did them but because you can handle them another way.
You may be familiar with The Eisenhower Box. Or Stephen Covey’s Time Management Matrix . (Though many say neither guy was the first to develop it.) The idea is that everything you do, business or personal, fits into one of these boxes. Some examples of what kinds of tasks that go in each quadrant. URGENT
Micro-scheduling your entire day usually doesn’t work. Life and business are so fluid that in most jobs you need to be nimbler than that. Of course meetings and appointments need to be scheduled on your calendar but there are a few other tasks that stand a much better chance of getting done if you actually block time on your calendar.
Before we talk about terrible bosses let’s talk about terrible singers. Have you ever watched one of those singing competitions? You’ll hear an audition that sounds like a catfight on a chalkboard and think, “Does this chick seriously think she has a chance in hell to win this?”
For a few years I was part of a group of women mentors at a local university. The school has a program that matches sophomore women in the business school with women already out in the workplace. The role of the mentor is to share ideas, tips, information, support and hopefully wisdom to help the students be as prepared as possible to launch into the work world.
At one of the events, all of the mentors were asked to share what one trait each of us considered vital to being successful.
Certainly you’d never fire off a snippy email but I’ll bet you work with people who would and do. I know this because I’ve experienced it and I also hear about it every single week from people in corporate America. So this post isn’t really about you. It’s for you to share with those other people. From now on when I say “you” I mean “them.” Moving along.
Exercising in the most efficient way gets results faster. Same goes for work. Here are three things you can take from an exercise experience and apply them to work situations to get more done and have more energy, too.
Common wisdom would indicate that having goals is vital to achievement. But that’s not the whole story. In this instance as is so often the case, little shifts add up to big changes.
Like the little shift marking the difference between setting goals and making commitments.
There’s a habit in the thinking process that will destroy your best plans to reach your goals. When you have a goal the intention is to go for it 100%. Really commit yourself, right? So when there’s a small lapse or something is preventing you from forging ahead the way you planned, it seems easy to ditch that effort and promise to start again another time.
Being spontaneous is creative, adventurous and fun, right? Not being spontaneous is for rule followers, rigid thinkers and sticks in the mud. Nobody wants to be defined that way!
Many proudly spontaneous folks bristle at the idea of planning. They think that only uptight, Type A sorts plan everything out and that doing so stifles creativity.
Yeah, well. They’re wrong about that.